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Bullying At Work

Bullying is considered to be unacceptable behaviour in Australia and most other developed countries.  However, although the majority of organisations have policies and procedures on defining, acknowledging and dealing with bullying, the reality is that much of it goes unnoticed.  It can be tricky for the victim to prove that bullying is taking place and therefore protect against it.  This is owing to the undectable nature of most bullying behaviours.  Here is a comprehensive definition and subsequent description of workplace bullying as discussed by Namie (2003, www.bullyinginstitute.org):

1)    The repeated maltreatment of a person which can be very destructive to a person’s mental wellbeing

2)    The bully dominates others by acting in an dictative or segregating manner

3)    The bully coerces others to take part in bullying behaviour against a selected victim

4)    The victim’s efficiency is disturbed by the bullying behaviour, and as a consequence the employer’s business or organisation suffers

5)    It can intensify from individual harassment to an entire work unit who are engulfed in fear and productivity is hindered.

The existence of bullying within the workplace can be indicated by:

=>  Incidents where a person appears to change personality

=>  The existence of concealed agendas which segregate management and staff members

=>  The presence of cliques, struggles for power, conspiracies and manipulation within the workplace

=>  Aggression, violence, oppression, prohibition and intimidation

For the most part, victims of workplace bullying share numerous things in common.  Victims of bullying are typically female and they are usually very resilient, as they tolerate the behaviour for a considerable period of time, often without complaint.  In general the victim is very
educated, highly accomplished, independent, strong and capable. The personal qualities of the victim can intimidate the bully.  The bully is generally someone in authority over her and recruits others to take part in the bullying, sometimes without their knowledge or awareness.

Common methods utilised by bullies include false accusations, stand-over tactics, criticisms, gossiping, undermining, verbal abuse and coercion of others to take part in bullying behaviour.  The strategies which are the most damaging and most difficult to prove are the covert tactics such as glaring, rolling the eyes, ignoring the victim and “accidentally” shutting the door in someone’s face.  Victims of workplace bullying possibly may not be able to specifically recognise the bullying behaviours, but may have a “gut feeling” or sense of low self-esteem.

Bullying has a deep impact on the victim and causes a considerable number of psychological and medical symptoms (In a sample of 1 000 victims, Namie identified 33 specific symptoms).  Psychological symptoms include depression, anxiety and high levels of stress.  Medical symptoms include insomnia, weight gain, high blood pressure, heart disease, irritable bowel syndrome and a decreased life expectancy.  Pyschological and medical symptoms generally persist even after the victim is reemployed.  The first detectable signs are generally a drop in performance, arriving late to work, not turning up to work or even giving in notice.  Where the bully is causing counterproductive interpersonal dynamics within a group, there is likely to be high staff turnover.

Unfortunately the victim generally ends up quitting their job, getting transferred or fired while the bully seldom loses their job or gets transferred and less than 4% of those who are punished or sanctioned actually cease their bullying behaviour.

Only a small portion of bullies are made accountable for their behaviour – most are simply ignored or get rewarded in some way, sometimes even promoted.  Alternatively, organisations lose valuable and proficient employees with over 70% of bullying victims being relocated, fired or quitting.

The subtle signs of psychological distress caused by workplace bullying are only recognisable with highly sophisticated and effective psychological assessment techniques.  Additionally, skilled interventions that help diffuse tensions, mediate conflicts and create a harmonious work environment, are crucial for a deep and permanent transformation.

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Depression And Self-Hatred

 

Do you want to discover why you’re depressed?  It boils down to the original root cause, SELF-HATRED, also known as SELF-JUDG EME NT. Self-hatred always goes hand-in-hand with depression.A judgement is different from a FACT.If the origin of your depression is judgement, the CURE for your depression is TRUTH All self-Judgements have the following traits:

 

=> 1. DICHOTOMIES:Judgements only offer a black and white view of the world, with no shades of grey.  Things can either be nice/horrid, right/wrong, or weak/strong.

 

=> 2. COMPARISONS with others or an ultimate self: “Compared with her “I’m useless” or “compared with how beautiful I should be, I fail”.

 

=> 3. AN IDEAL SELF that you “should” measure up to. Actually you are and always will be a ACTUAL human being and NOT an ideal that has perfection as its standard and therefore is alwaysimpossible to attain.As an actual human being you will have the full range of human emotions, limitations and rejections of all human experience.

 

=> 4. THE “SHOULDS”and “musts” of interior dialogue are potentindicators of self-judgement.

 

=> 5. ARBITRARY, VAGUE, GENERAL:Judgements are irrational, imprecise, have no basis in reality and are not calculable.Why would you describe yourself as “hideous”, “tedious”, “a retard” or any other degrading label?If we consider how to assess the actual truth of a judgement, might we be able to use a exactmeasure, like amount of tax paid, to determine if the label ““without value” actually does apply?You can see for yourself how hollow these statements are..

 

=> 6. PERVASIVE, REPETITIVE AND SHORTHAND:Self-judgements use shorthand, fast, straightforward, phrases that are highly memorable and repeat like a mantra but are very low on precision.

 

=> 7. CONSCIOUS & UNCONSCIOUS:Self-judgement is underhand: sometimes it is recognisable but mostly it is covert.Unfortunately the most controlling and pervasive saboteurs of your mental health are the unconscious forms of self-hatred, which can only be reigned in using experiencedprofessional help.

 

BEWARE! Individuals die from self-hatred!Here below recaps a March 2010 article in the West Australian Online.  It shows how askewed, self-hating perspective canhasten someone’s untimely death.

 

Charmaine Dragun, a famousnews anchor who was ill with depression for 10 years, died by jumping from a Sydney cliff in 2007.  In a cut-throat industry, Charmaine couldn’t afford to let any weakness show for fear of being overthrown by other pretty opponents who were determined to to get the job.She didn’t want to be seen as someone who couldn’t cope.  Charmaine once reported a bulletin that her bosses thought was amazing, which for her was the “worst bulletin ever”.Although highly intelligent and articulate, she was very tough with herself.  She told herself that the publicand her bosses didn’t like her and that she would eventually be fired.Her friends knew she really wasbrilliant but they couldn’t convince her of that fact.She said herwork was dulland that she just read words that other people had written.

 

Here is the actual reality:

 

Charmaine Dragun, whose charm lit up a room, was a highly intelligent, stunningand articulate TV journalist.She was esteemed by many and her bosses were impressed by theexcellence of her work.They encouraged her to continue in her career for as long as she could.She had a responsible and professional manner and was always well-presented|well-groomed|elegant].She was chosen over many others due to her hard work and talent.She was truly blessed with unique gifts and favourable opportunities.Her nearest and dearest will miss her terribly..

 

Recovery from depression is challenging and requires dedication and commitment.Those who suffer from depression have to replace twisted and hateful self-judgements with a deep understanding of what’s true.This is not just an academic exercise but an embodied, holistic and innate process that can only be attained with the help of an experienced therapist. To learn more, visit our Henshaw Consulting – Psychologists Perth website where you can get the help you need from an expert Clinical Psychologist Perth.

 

Dr. S Henshaw is a clinical psychologist in Perth, working with individuals to alleviate depression and anxiety. To learn more about improving your emotional well being, visit: http://www.henshawconsulting.com.au

 

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